I give the following talks:
INSECURITY – The way to strength
There’s only one starting point for your life: Here and now. This means that if you feel insecure, then that’s your starting point now. Unfortunately, most of us make the mistake of believing that the feeling of insecurity is wrong, something that shouldn’t be there, or something that we have to fix or get rid of before we can take action and live the life we dream of.
But that just isn’t so.
Instead of using some – or all – of our energy trying to resist what already is, we can learn to use it as a way to reconnect with the strength within that we mistakenly think we lack.
In this talk I will give you a new perspective on our common beliefs about what it means to be strong and give you my take on how you can use the feeling of insecurity as the direct way to reconnect with the strength within, that you already possess.
You will learn:
- how to spot that which makes you feel insecure (and it’s never what you think it is)
- use a simple, yet effective tool, to respond to challenging situations or people, and
- to reconnect with the strength, you already have within.
CONFLICT – The way to develop better relationships
There is only one conflict, that plays itself out in infinite ways: our conflict with and resistance to our present moment experience – a conflict and a resistance which we experience as varying degrees of discomfort.
As long as we are unable to give space to and fully contain this inner discomfort, to a large extent our actions are governed by an unconscious attempt to avoid feeling it. For example, this is what happens in times of conflict when we react by directing a hurtful comment to someone else and regret it shortly after. The remark slipped out because we wanted to push away the person we perceived to be the cause of our inner discomfort, instead of trying to resolve the outer conflict.
The first step out of any conflict is therefore a temporary shift in focus from the outer conflict situation to the inner resistance. A shift that we can call “to press the pause button”. When we press the pause button, we give ourselves the chance to become aware of the thoughts, feelings and physical sensations in our body which make it difficult – and sometimes impossible – to perceive the outer situation clearly and respond appropriately.
In this talk I give you my take on how conflicts can be a way to improve our relationships both in the workplace and privately and I give you a simple, yet effective tool, which help you respond – instead of react – in conflict situations.
You will learn:
- how to press the pause button
- how give space to and contain your discomfort so you can respond appropriately in conflict situations, and
- how develop better relationships.